sounds like you're more of an anal suspension freak than anything. you won't get the best of both worlds unless you go bypass, or have a custom setup from someone like PRG who probably knows a thing or two about suspension since he only builds suspension setups for MDR, BITD, Baja race trucks. you could have him make you a SAW setup with a lighter spring, i dunno, doesn't seem like you'll be pleased with anything.
good luck
good luck