Nice doesn't cut it with folks in the automotive industry. Especially with aftermarket companies that feel they have a lock on a product or design and the options and competition are limited. Sorry, but nice got you the run around and nothing but lip service. I completely understand that confrontation can be uncomfortable and the rational is that if you play nice, they'll accommodate you and work harder to find a solution to keep you happy. It's not gonna happen with Doug Thorley and Nick as your contact...
On 6/23/11, I got a PM from a member that wants help installing headers. He told me Nick from DT said the headers would ship by the end of the week so let's say the 29th as a ship date. That's not 5 weeks! I haven't talked to the member, so I'm not sure if they shipped yet. But his shipment quote is not 5 weeks and means Nick isn't being honest...
It sounds to me like you're getting jerked around because you're being nice. I can tell you that folks aren't knocking down the door buying 2011 QX56 DT headers so Nick doesn't make any sense...
At the very least try and get an honest answer from them when the "TITAN" headers will be available and what kind of "customer service" they're going to extend to you for their mistake and your inconvenience...